Training Your Child

Four Ingredients for Child Training: Ingredient Four

Four Ingredients for Child Training: Ingredient Four

So far in this series, we have looked at the first three ingredients of training our children: understanding the “why,a healthy relationship, and clear expectations and consistent consequences. However, the fourth ingredient can determine whether child training is a ministry of grace or an application of the law. The fourth ingredient is heartfelt correction.  

There are three issues to consider with heartfelt correction: honor, obedience, and the heart.

Four Ingredients to Train Your Child: Ingredient Three

Four Ingredients to Train Your Child: Ingredient Three

Now that we have looked at the “why” of child training, and are working towards a loving, healthy relationship with our children, we need to dive into ingredient three: clear expectations and consistent consequences.

First, have I clearly communicated to my child that I expect them to obey right away and with a good attitude? We might need to ask ourselves these questions: Am I a threatening parent? (Johnny, if you don’t…then I am going to…)  Am I a parent that tells them to do something and then starts counting? (Jenny, I told you to…1 - 2 - 3 …)  Am I a parent who laughs when they disobey sometimes, and then flies off the handle when they disobey other times? All of these things are confusing and disheartening to a child. Confusing expectations and inconsistent consequences are exasperating to children. We need to clearly communicate to our children both verbally and with consistent consequences that we expect them to obey right away and with a good attitude both us, as parents, and other adults who are in authority over them— grandparents, teachers, etc.

Four Ingredients to Train Your Child: Ingredient Two

Four Ingredients to Train Your Child: Ingredient Two

It is essential to know and have conviction about the “why,” otherwise when the going gets tough, we will crumble under pressure! However, once we have conviction about the need to train our children, we need ingredient number two: a healthy relationship. Since training is such a difficult thing, it needs to happen in the framework of a healthy relationship. So, what constitutes a healthy parent/child relationship?

Four Ingredients to Train Your Child: Ingredient One

Four Ingredients to Train Your Child: Ingredient One

A famous proverb says, “Train up a child in the way they should go, and when they are old, they will not depart from it.” We are going to look at Four Ingredients for Child Training, and today we will look at the first ingredient: understanding the “why” of training your child.

So why does the proverb say “train” your child? It could say “love” your child, or “teach” your child, but the word is most definitely train your child. In order to answer this question, we need to consider another question. 

What is the most important thing our children need? Is it good manners? How about education? What about diverse experiences?