She’d been violated again. But this time, she ended up pregnant. She’d been used, betrayed, taken advantage of, exploited, and deceived one too many times. She lived in a home where she slaved away day after day, overworked and unappreciated. She lived with a man who used her for her body but didn’t care to know her heart. She wanted to leave.
But she stayed and tried to give her baby boy a good life anyway. Eventually though, the man kicked her and her son out of the house. It seemed like he didn’t even care about his own son, much less her. She was left all alone, a single mom with no way to provide for her child.
This is the story of many single mothers. It’s also the story of Hagar in Genesis 16 and 21.
Hagar thought she was all alone. But when the pain became too great and she ran away into the desert, she realized that she was not alone after all. God found her. God spoke to her. God gave her hope. Hagar responded to God, saying, “You are the God who sees me.…” (Genesis 16:13)
Later, when Hagar is kicked out of the house, the situation seems hopeless yet again. She has no way to provide for her young son, and it seems as though they will die in the desert. But yet again, God rescued her. “God heard the boy crying, and the angel of God called to Hagar from heaven and said to her, ‘What is the matter, Hagar? Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying as he lies there. Lift the boy up and take him by the hand, for I will make him into a great nation.” (Genesis 21:17-18)
Even when Hagar thought she was all alone, God was there.
If you’re a single parent, maybe that’s the truth you need to cling to today.
GOD SEES YOU
If you’re a single parent, your life is crazy. You may feel alone when you have to shuttle your kids back and forth to school and practice and the sitter’s and the doctor and work and their other family. You may feel alone when the house is a mess, the kids are fighting, and the baby won’t sleep through the night. You may feel alone when you’re worn out, but there’s no one there to give you a break. But you are not alone.
Just like Hagar, you belong to the God who Sees You. This is what He says to you…
· “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
· “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28
· “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19
· “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may life you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:6-7
GOD WILL PROVIDE FOR YOU
Just like God gave Hagar and her son hope for their future and provision for their present, He will provide for you and your family, too.
We hope that PCC can be a part of God’s provision to your family. God sees you, and so do we. We want to provide you with…
· Help. Sometimes, you just need an extra hand. We hope that PCC is a place where you get connected with other people. Get involved in a Life Group or a Sunday School class. Bring your kids to the Treehouse Community Hours. Get to know the other parents on Sunday mornings. You just might make a connection with someone who can lend you a helping hand when you’re in a pinch!
· Mentoring. Sometimes you just need someone to listen to you and tell you that it’s going to be okay! Our ministerial staff would be happy to pray with you or help in any way they can. We’d also love to connect you with others in our congregation who have walked in your shoes!
· Prayer. You won’t be the perfect parent. You won’t have perfect kids. But even when you aren’t perfect, God can work through your weaknesses. His power will make up for what you lack. He is a good Father, and He takes care of his children. The most powerful thing you can do for your kids is to pray for them. And the best thing you can do for yourself if to deepen your relationship with Jesus every day!
OUR ULTIMATE HOPE
Single parenting is never the ideal situation. But God loves using less-than-ideal situations for His glory. You may remember that He chose Mary (an unmarried teen) to bring Jesus into the world. Eventually, Joseph died, and God used Mary as a single mother to continue raising Jesus and his siblings. If God chose a single mom to care for His Son, then there is certainly hope for your family, too!
So even when you feel alone, remember: God sees you. He will provide for you, because He is the best Father your kids could ever have. When God is with you, you’re never just a single parent.